ABW= Angry Black Woman
What you ain't know?
Apparently women in my age range who don't have a man are the #1culprits of this particular syndrome. We (women) apparently do not know how to get a man or treat a man due to the negative examples we have received from our parents and grandparents and the African-American community. According to this film I watched called "angry black man"- (aptly) subtitled "it's our turn to exhale", the director 'attempts' to show us how women don't know how to act when given the opportunity of a 'good man' and we tend to listen to our evil, sinister and apparently jealous girlfriends. He attempts to coin the term Angry Black Woman- that women are inherently angry and thus treat men this way on a regular basis and every move a man does is scrutinized and not enough. The director goes on to say how we (women) always want drama in a relationship-even if a man is doing 125%of what he could be doing right-things like taking care of his kids, putting food on the table and caring for his wife is determinedly not enough. The superficial example he shows in this movie is this chick- chick who is a trophy wife and this African dude who does what looks like everything right but she goes out of pocket at every angle. She picks a fight in front of their kids for no reason. She does not appreciate him cooking a meal for her. She argues in the middle of the night with him because he leaves his drawers on the floor. She is made out to be the evil controlling wench and he the doting loving husband just treated horribly. The director states we (women) would not know how to treat a good man using the argument that if a woman is raised by man-hating woman (single parent households always berating men and saying they ain't worth crap) then that woman wont know how to treat a man when she gets one. He then goes on to attempt to use that same argument (which gets lost in the commentary)- if a man only saw his daddy beating his momma then he is automatically going to become an abuser) I think that is entirely negative and false. There is a certain amount of choice, nature vs. nurture, good vs. bad examples and simple right and wrong that comes into every situation.
This movie/ documentary is utterly hilarious with the bad elementary acting and then the "real people" moments that are parsed in between them. The reason I am vehemently upset at this film is because it paints everyone with such wide stereotypes that it is ridiculous. That is like saying all black people like collard greens and fried chicken. Or worse. It is saying that because some women don't have a proper male role model in the home (be it because their father was pushed out or by choice or what if the man is deceased?) that these same women will NEVER know how to treat a man because they never were able to witness a loving relationship between the first man & woman in her life. Wouldn't this then hold true to the argument that then boys I mean men would not know how to treat a woman being raised by a woman? Does it means that by just being present (sitting on a couch all damn day maybe?) is better for all man-kind than being without that person in their life? Does it mean that even if the daddy beats on the momma it is best to have him there so the daughter and son can have a fighting chance [see how that worked out??]
food for thought....
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