Coffee thought...

Change is constant
No one said it would be easy or wanted or even in un-welcomed-
because some folks really want a change.
Some folks really need a change.
Change can often be hard- because as far as I know
No one ever asked the caterpillar how it felt to become the butterfly
Or asked the bird (after every time it fell) how does it feels when he finally flies...
No- there is one thing that is constant and that is change.
People change.
Relationships change- no better or worse just they change.
One of the questions I have asked was
'Was this love that we shared sustainable beyond change?'
What are we (read: I) holding on to in order to avoid change?
Was this friendship really that valuable that I am going to be lost without it?
Was this person in my life at a time that was utterly chaotic there in some sense of the form, and are they there now?
Was there a reason?
Not so much- hell not at all IF I tell the truth.
I mean, if they do not see value in me and/ or this relationship then what am I fighting for?
No one wins in a one sided fight...
Accepting change is one of the hardest things we can do.
I accept the things I cannot change- because those things I truly cannot change.
What I do not accept are things that I think I could have possibly changed or influenced the outcome of.
A valid friendship lost is not one of the things I thought I needed to accept considering I put everything into it.
But like folks say you can't make someone want more, do more, be more, or put more into something they do not want--
free will baby.
Free will-
it's all bout choice.
And I choose me.
Thanks for the memories!

that's all...