grandma knows best??

can u tell me why my grandmother insists on telling me everytime someone over the age of 21 has a kid or anyone over the age of 30 is looking for a husband my granny proceeds to tell me "see there is someone out there still looking as well". (as in the 'see you are not alone' in your looking process) & 'see this here proves there are no good men out there.'

She then proceeds to point out various articles underlining these major points:

• it is hard to find a decent straight god fearing man in this world
• it is hard to have a truly committed relationship in this time
• that i should look outside the box is the norm (like internet dating/ other various online sites)
• and it it increasingly harder as you get either up there in age/education/ economic status or weight (i just threw that in there on good measure)

soo what do you think?
it it true?
do i have to have a certain quality of 'lesser' to be good enough to get a man?
do i have to sacrifice my intelligence or my thirst for adventure in the most non adventurous ways or my youth or comfortability or my witty banter-self reliant (to a point)- accomplishments to snag said dude in this world?
i am thoroughly confused by this.
fast forward to this site this ingenious woman set up called '52weeks'... she is putting it all out there big time- with a time limit on how long she is giving herself to find someone (lover? companion?? beau? paramour!)
i don't know ... but at what point does one cut their losses? settles for this ___ ...this life, or existence rather... cut and run? i dunno.

Addendum to dating

This is what's out there for dating:

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http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/stp/1050255561.html

Bored 30 yr old with too much time on his hands, seeks an evil villain to give his life an extra edge and flavor.

For the short (and possible long) term, I need somebody to be my nemesis and be an evil villain in my life. Please nothing crazy, but little things such as pouring ink into my laundry load, leaving nasty notes, hacking into my Facebook, knocking my coffee over, tripping me as I'm running to catch the subway, and sneaking up to me and evilly whispering "So we meet again, Mr. Brian!!!"

Please be full of mischief, cunning, possess the ability to laugh throatily like a supervillain (or giggle in a semi seductive evil way). Possession of accents a plus. The ability to stealth and organize a league of super villains also a plus. Having a small cat or dog to pet in your arms as you cackle maniacally, another plus. Please send me a photo and explanation as to why you would make a great villain in my life.

All genders, races, ages and species welcomed.
Except badgers. I am deathly afraid of badgers. Location: NYC
it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

'it's a _world afterall'

26-Feb-09

i am so tired of everyone saying 'it's such a small world' cause really
is it that such of a small world?
people talking about 6 degrees of separation/desperation/exasperation
and who knew who from the past et al.
you know what that means for me?
that means that either one of my family members
or friends KNOWS whomever will end up being my intended
(possibly with this being a small world and all)
and still i have not met him.
what is also saddening about this particular phenomenon is that
currently of the people i know + the people that they know i know + the people i have met
= zero chances in this love game.
someone need explain the rules to me cause i am loosing horribly.

coffee thought...

yo can u tell me why this bitch think we at the copacababna on a crowded train to manhattan?? As I am on the #5 train in the tunnel she is trying to dance like she was doing the mambo on dancing with the stars? WTF this is unreal. I need a drink...STAT..
that's all...until you see me on the noontime news for smacking a hoe!

And the Oscar goes to...

Best picture of the year (in my humble opinion) & now the opinion of the members of the Academy...

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

this was a phenomenal film that was just beyond words.

and now to sleep...

friendly advice...

In response to my 'no one loves me tirades"

"T" (11:22:34 AM): ooh i surely have no info on the speed dater. youdon't listen well
me (11:24:19 AM): yeah i do and no one wanted me apparently they send out these emails for you to log in and rate the event and see if anyone wantedyou. i rated the event & it was like "check your matches" guess what big fat zero
me (11:25:20 AM): so i am even being rejected by rejects
"T" (11:25:21 AM): well it aint like you wanted them either
me (11:25:30 AM): right... but i want to be wanted
"T" (11:25:34 AM): being rejected by rejects is great
"T" (11:25:44 AM): if the crazies want you that's not a good look
me (11:25:52 AM): since when is it great?
"T" (11:25:54 AM): that's like the devil saying he thinks you're a goodperson
me (11:26:00 AM): wow
"T" (11:26:33 AM): if somebody don't got the sense god gave them, i surely don't want them thinking we're compatible & you don't either
me (11:26:53 AM): i see your point

AND this is why i love my friends cause surely they keep my insaneness in check...

speed dating--- slow down

Last week (on Valentines Day) i went on some kind of journey into speed dating...
let me tell u something at 3 minutes per date with a total of 20 men it was hilarious to say the least. First off this place is an Irish Pub called the Wheeltapper Pub...somewhere adjacent to grand central...OK not bad with an Irish Pubby feel. I meet 2 of my partners in crime (C & K) and we are prepared for the...dates? if any of y'all have never gone 'speed dating' you sign up PAY $40 and commence to sitting at a table. Now the funny thing is C & I were the only persons of ethnic background so suffice it to say this was not out demographic...but hey in the spirit of not siting home alone we will just do it. the dating starts (dating is used in the loosest of terms here) as it is more like a fast pace 3 minute interview by multiple persons of varying degrees of sanity is more like it.
Well I met some interesting characters rather people whom are actively out in public on a daily basis AKA loose in society!! This one dude was like (after i asked what bought him out on a Saturday night 'cause i had to initiate conversation) responded "it was either this or staying home & masturbating" I mean WTF even if those were your options trust me when i tell ya i didn't need to know that.
Another character, who had the most obmoxious laugh on the planet said he was a pimp looking for some hoes, do I know any??? (seriously) NO, I replied, but i know someone who would slap him. (and they wonder why they are single..hell at this point i am beyond wondering why i am single as i swear them comments don't come out my mouth. maybe on paper..but never to no ones face)
There were a few gems in the group- a single dad who was taking care of his 2 kids (seemed OK) and the lone African American dude who had a sense of humor about the whole thing & genuinely seemed human enough to have a decent conversation with for 3 minutes. To even be there was eintirel a test of the sense of humor. [Side note, to complete the speed dating process one has to log back in and put in the dudes you were interested in to see if they 'match' you & then you get their email addy & then the rest is up to you and cupid & that little bit o'luck dude on the lotto commercials. Suffice it to say I matched no one- story of my life]
And finally there was this other dude who was Drunk. Really Drunk who just won a rugby tournament and decided to show up drunk to this event (cause who can pass up a winning team+ free drinks to celebrate+drinking on V-day). He was at least funny/honest and charismatic about the whole thing (maybe it was the booze).

Soo ladies out there just FYI speed dating was not for me,
but hey just like lotto you never know.

cookie monster??

sooo yeah why is this dude eating cookie dough on the train..
there are a few things wrong with this picture...
One- it is 8 am
Two- it is a dude.
Three- it is cookie dough.
& Finally- this is the public MTA not your freakin house !!!

MTA= one stop shopping

did you know that on your daily commute on the MTA you can get everything u need:

• from candy to save a kid off the street (or to send him & his basketball team to guam)
• to a new and improved metrocard holder (what is new and improved about a piece of plastic..)
• from bootleg prawn from a skeevy dude (yeah icky icky)
• to a musical serenade by a mariachi band (i will NOT mention anything about the authentic mexican-ness and their working permit/green card status)
  
• to 'saved' your soul by the train car preacher all between 125 & 86th street.

nyc is great

Happy Valentines Day

Happy Valentines day to me from me

just love

13 de friday

yes yes today is friday the 13th!! <--cue scary music and phobia's....

whoo hooo friday the 13th! see previous post on the random craziness of "Friday the 13th"

today brings about a few GREAT thing (amazing, I know) It is amazing to me caus it is really it is all about perspective...

#1- Today is Mel's 34th birthday.(happy birthday to you/ happy birthday to you/ happy birthday dear melvin/happy birthday to you) ironically this is his first birthday without mom as she was here last year to wish him a happy day...this was the day she was officially diagnosed last year. sucks to be mindful of this; but on to happier thoughts.. last night we had CG and had some cheesecake to celebrate the joyousness of it all & Mike got Mel a present...the 'Ove' glove. NO self respecting chef travels without one. [yo this has been a running joke between them for years and the look on Mel's face says it all]. Suffice it to say there will be pics to follow...

#2 i got the promotion. yes i am entirely excited (MANAGER NOW) as this is the same job that i was denied for a few months ago. (i think what is yours really is yours, no? YES) i mean does this stop my progress?? OH NO, no as this is just a stepping stone to my final destination. but beyond that i mean i get an office, i have to effectively manage folks. i have to be creative (you think this works for me??)

#3 it is valentines weekend and while i am without love in the 'oh i want you to be mine' love sense i do have a great support of friends and family (so cupid is stupid! HA HA i can blame him, right?) i may go get a massage this weekend or a mani/pedi to make myself feel better

#4 i think i may be able to take a vacation this year (where?)to somewhere which would be fantabolous...

another google post...

Google it !!!!

coffee thought...

supplied by DD today... sometimes i need fuel b4 i get to work...
that's all...